WHAT'S A GODWINK?
A godwink is what some people would call a coincidence, an answered prayer, or simply an experience where you'd say, "Wow, what are the odds of that!"
What do godwinks mean? Think about when you were a kid and someone you loved gave you a little wink across the dining room table...Mom or Dad or Grandma. You didn't say "What do you mean by that?" You knew. It meant: "Hey kid, I'm thinking about you right now." That's what a godwink is too: a message of reassurance from above, directly to you, out of six billion people on the planet, saying "Hey kid...I'm thinking of you! Keep the faith! You're never alone."
HOW CAN GODWINKS HELP US?
In times of UNCERTAINTY what we desire more than anything else is CERTAINTY. Certainty that our families are safe. Certainty that we won't get downsized or that we'll have enough in the checkbook to make it through the month. We crave certainty when we get a scary medical report. And we long for certainty in our relationships.
It's during times of uncertainty that we especially need to get connected to our faith. We need to believe that our lives are not random like twigs floating on a stream to destinations unknown. Instead, we need to know that we all have a greater purpose; that someone really is up there watching over us and we're always on an incredible GPS...what I call God's Positioning System™...never alone. To me, the best thing about godwinks is that they are TANGIBLE SIGNPOSTS along our way, giving us hope, replacing uncertainty with a genuine feeling of CERTAINTY that everything is going to be okay!
WHAT IS THE BASIS OF YOUR FAITH?
Raised in a God-respecting-Christian family in a small farm community in Northern New York, I was rooted in my faith right from childhood. But it fully blossomed when my son was born in cardiac arrest. His lungs had become clogged in the womb. They said if he lived, he'd be a vegetable. As he lay in a hospital incubator with 18 wires and tubes coming from his small body, I studied the gauge on the respirator indicating that he was breathing only 5% on his own⎯the machine was doing the rest. I pledged to God that I would pray for him around the clock and pleaded for Him to save my son.
As shared in my first WGW book, I witnessed an extraordinary miracle...a powerful godwink! During the 39th hour of my son's life, at 5:30 am, his body began to shake. It was a seizure, said the nurse, rushing to get a doctor. I then watched in amazement as his tiny quivering body began to cast off the blockage in his lungs, sending a dark substance through a transparent tube. I stared at the respirator gauge. It was dropping. He was breathing more and more on his own. By the time he was 48 hours old, the respirator gauge had dropped to 50%, meaning that he was breathing 50% by himself! Doctors confirmed he would survive, calling him "the miracle baby".
My son was subsequently diagnosed with brain damage, unable to read or write, yet today he's a sweet, engaging young man who has a wonderful singing voice and musical memory. He's a joy.
From the day of my son's birth, I truly began a deeper relationship with God. And my walk with the Lord has only grown stronger since I met and married my wonderful wife Louise DuArt. Getting into the habit of praying together, even for five minutes a day, produced so many incredible blessings and godwinks in our lives that we felt compelled to share that gift with others in our book Couples Who Pray. But Louise also taught me the treasure that can be uncovered through daily reading of a far more important book, the Bible. For us...and for anyone seeking proof of God's existence...the ancient scriptures unfold a remarkably harmonious blueprint for our lives, all the more astonishing when you consider that it was written down by dozens of different writers over thousands of years.
In a small way I can identify with those writers as I now look back on my own work with When GOD Winks. I realize that God has led me to every story in every book. It is therefore more appropriate to say that I didn't really write these books. I just wrote them down.
WHY ARE YOUR BOOKS IN DIFFERENT SECTIONS AT DIFFERENT BOOK STORES?
No author should whine about his books being in a bookstore...particularly when they've reached that coveted "auto re-order" status. But, I want you to know that, unfortunately, authors have no control over bookstore placement. My pleadings to Barnes & Noble and Borders that the When GOD Winks books are intended to be placed in INSPIRATION, and don't belong in the sections they've put them in, have been regrettably ignored. So, as you enter a bookstore, I hope you'll take a deep breath, close your eyes, and resist judging my books by where they have been put on the shelf.
HOW COME YOUR NAME HAS A CAPITAL Q?
When I worked at ABC - for 20 years - I always signed my name on personal notes as simply "SQ". One summer my daughter, home from college, worked for me typing letters. She observed a distinction from the way she'd always seen my name. "Hey Dad, this little "q" looks funny," she said. "Why don't we make it a capital ‘Q' then you'll have a logo!" I replied in the manner of any self-respecting father: "Whatever you want honey." And, ever since, SQuire has been spelled with a capital "Q."
YOU SAY LIFE IS LIKE A JIGSAW PUZZLE...BUT HOW DO WE KNOW IT WILL ALL FIT TOGETHER?
Imagine me handing you a box...a jigsaw puzzle. Your picture is on it and underneath are the words "MY LIFE." You dump it out on the dining room table, paw through the pieces, exclaiming, "I'll NEVER be able to put this together!"
But here's the thing about jigsaw puzzles. You KNOW that if you keep at it, the puzzle will eventually come together. Why do you believe that? Because you saw the picture on the box. By the same token, when the picture of your life is seen from ABOVE...all put together...it ALSO will all make sense. It will all fit. And the closer we get to that perspective - by getting closer to God - the more our faith will grow in the promise that there IS a grand plan for each of our lives, and that every piece fits perfectly together.
HOW CAN WE CHART OUR FUTURE BY MAPPING GODWINKS OF OUR PAST?
I think of "godwink mapping" as taking an archeological expedition into own lives, digging up the godwinks that we've overlooked, forgotten, or ignored. As I explain in my books, the best way to dredge up past godwinks from your memory, is to look to your turning points - those crossroads when your life's path took a whole new direction - you lost someone you love or something you valued; you got a new job, a new relationship or a new home. I'm convinced that there was always a signpost at every turning point. They were there to provide you with reassurance, that everything was going to be okay - that you're never alone.
Of course, if you're like most of us, you probably brushed off and forgot about your godwinks. They're not at the top of your mind. But, if you take the time to excavate those godwinks, you will come to realize that there has been a map of signposts all along your way, saying, "Hey kid...hang in there. You're on track."
And the best news? A map of godwinks will continue to unfold, long into your future. Just open your eyes and acknowledge them as concrete signs of encouragement, directly from above, especially for you.
WHAT ARE "GODWINK LINKS."
We've all had the experience of an unexpected phone call from someone we were just thinking about, but hadn't thought about in years. Or...we've run into someone on the street who completely changed the direction of our life. We often say, "Wow...what a godwink." Yet we rarely ask, "What caused that person to call me at that moment?" or, "What caused that person to be at the same place I was, at just the right time?"
I call these people "Godwink Links." They were the unwitting messengers of a godwink to us. But, come to think of it, we are ALL unwitting messengers of godwinks to others, aren't we? Proving, of course, that we INDEED are all on a glorious GPS - God's Positioning SystemTM - and that through awesome, mysterious connections, divine alignments are moving us through life.
WHAT ROLE DOES STEPPING OUT IN FAITH - ACTING ON WISHES AND DREAMS - PLAY IN FOSTERING GODWINKS?
Wishes and dreams were placed in your heart by a powerful force - your Maker. When you were a child you really believed that every dream you uttered into a star-filled sky would come true. Remember when you said: "I wish I may, I wish I Might...?" Then, someone said, "Grow up!" Maybe they called you a "dreamer" and made it sound like a bad word.
But, it's never too late for you to rekindle your childlike acceptance of wishes and dreams. A redundant message in my book is this: You must not sit by the side of the road on your baggage and expect your destiny to come to you. You must get up, leave your baggage behind, and start heading for what you believe to be your destiny.
When you step out in faith, God can then divinely align you, by unfolding godwinks along your path. He expects you to use your free will to aim for your destiny. Those are YOUR hands on the steering wheel, most of the way. So, just look for the signs - just as you would on the interstate highway - reassuring you that you're on the right path.
WHAT IS THE BEST THING YOU LEARNED FROM WRITING THE WHEN GOD WINKS BOOKS?
It gives me great joy to know that the word "godwinks" - divinely placed into my consciousness - has now entered into our language. Like most people, I had always sensed that there was no coincidence to coincidence. But, if that was so, I asked, what do you call it?
Subsequently, it was my readers who led me to an awareness that there is no word in the English language for answered prayer. They advised me that the word "godwink" was filling-in the language vacancy for both coincidence and answered prayer.
Yet, the best thing I've come to understand, is that more than a name for the experience, godwinks help people to feel a tangible connection with God...providing them with concrete stepping stones to build a lasting relationship with the Almighty.